What have you done for me?
Following on from my previous posts regarding the “man” who subjected my children and I to years of abuse, I wish to share a telephone conversation that this “man” had with his 15 year old daughter today where he asked What have you done for me?
So let me explain the context of this call and I guess the hoops Danielle had to jump through to even get as far as a call with this “man” (her dad) He has her blocked from phoning him, he has her blocked on any social channels and he has her emails marked as spam and for the last number of months she has had no address in which she could even write him a letter but today for some reason she felt enough was enough and she phoned his office, fair enough I guess considering he has avoided and ignored her since October (baring the odd message pretending to want to see her to only create such drama it would not happen)
Anyhow Danielle phoned the office today and said “Hi Dad it is me Danielle” the call from the offset on her dad’s side was guarded, sharp, abrupt and just a coldness that you should never get from a Dad to his only daughter. Danielle asked did he want to see her at all and he replied of coarse I do, great start right? well almost instantly it turned, she said I have a disco on Friday and a friends Birthday on Saturday, mum is going to drop me and collect me from the Disco and I am wondering would you like to drop me to the Birthday and collect me and maybe get some food on the way home. Now in my mind this was a pretty civil and normal request considering he has made her contacting him close to impossible, but it would seem in his mind it was wrong, his reply was “Don’t you phone me out of the blue demanding I do things for you” and she said “but what have I asked you to do since October? what have you done for me?” and he replied What have you done for me baby girl?, and again she replied “I have continued to phone you, I wished you a happy birthday, I gave you gifts at Christmas and I have tried to spend time with you, at which point he spoke over her and said she was not going to phone him out of the blue demanding from him. He said he would not be used by her and he hung up.
At 15 what should she have done for him?
I am actually confused by his reaction, it seems odd that a dad that has done nothing since October 2017 for his daughter would question what his child has done for him.
I am not sure why this man remains so angry, or why he continues to battle in this way. Someone normal would talk to me and create an environment in which we can co parent in order to have the best result for our child, but it would seem anger and rage is still the number one priority in this “man” life.
He uses lies to justify this behavior, he makes outrageous claims, he say’s things like I have been advised to stay away, so I can’t come to see you, utter crazy stuff.
The door is open, the phone is on, he is welcome to have a relationship at anytime with his Daughter but he is not free to question her and say What have you done for me?
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What have you done for me?